I feel I need to write this post due to the very opinionated, fiery and divided conversation that is happening on my Mumma Electric Facebook page at the moment.
Today I was walking through Tweed City Shopping Centre and a few meters ahead of me was a screaming little boy about 7 – 10 months old in his pram being pushed by a young and very flustered Mum. She stopped the pram abruptly and the baby still screaming threw his dummy out the pram, she swooped up the dummy and proceeded to smack the baby a few times on his thighs with considerable force. Gasping I walked past her very quickly absolutely horrified that such a young baby could do anything that would warrant being smacked like that.
I myself was a child who was occasionally smacked when I played up (sorry Mum for telling the world) and I do not feel like it did anything for me discipline wise, apart from having a fear instilled in me of being hit. To this day I avoid conflict and once in a confrontational situation I have an instant fear of being the victim of abuse. This I directly relate back to being smacked as a child, as back then corporal punishment was the ‘norm’ and not even a big issue to parents. Due to my experiences I believe that there is no room for any type of violence in family situations. I would never dream of hitting my partner, and if he hit me then I would most likely leave! So why on earth is it ok to hit a child?! It blows my mind that people think there is even a difference between the two.
Suddenly there is a generation or two of ‘Anti-Smacking’ parents – WHY IS THIS?
My thoughts are that many others, just like myself, who know first hand (no pun intended) that being disciplined by smacking does absolutely NOTHING towards teaching respect, rules and boundaries. Please feel free to enlighten me with psychological studies, actual facts and proven stats on how smacking benefits a child, just saying that ‘it does’ isn’t an educated enough answer for me, sorry! I plan to teach Hunter the before mentioned respect, rules and discipline with words… anyone with half a brain knows that the pen is mightier than the sword.
To see the full conversation visit the Mumma Electric Facebook page HERE and join in the conversation with your views.